KG’s Blog Post #32 – 1/26/10 1:24pm

Hello My Friends,

Well, today is another sad day.  I’m sorry to say that my youngest son Hunter has passed. His journey in life has ended and i can’t tell you how difficult understanding this is.

Jeanne and Billy will meet him and they will watch over all. I’m also baffled at the fact that his Mother elected not to tell me about his passing.  I can only hope the anger his family as will end and they can continue their journey in life without such anger. 

I fought hard for my son and lost the battle. We had a stranded relationship but my love for him never diminished once. All parents know what I’m speaking of.  I’m not really sure what to say but thank you all for all the support and love you have shown me.

291 Responses to “KG’s Blog Post #32 – 1/26/10 1:24pm”

  1. Larry F. says:

    Hi Ken,

    Sorry to hear about your loss. I know you’re a strong guy and you will get through this.

    I look forward to watching you kick some butt on the Champions Tour.

    I just wrote a piece about you on my blog, and have encouraged my readers to buy your KG Comeback hats. Hope it brings a few sales your way.

    You can check it out here: http://nothreeputts.blogspot.com/2010/02/tragedy-strikes-ken-green-again-but.html

    Best,
    Larry

  2. MichealsMOM says:

    My son Micheal passed away May 17th 2009 at age 18, completed unknown heart failure. He too was in college and just completed his 1st year on campus. One week after mother’s day. I know how you feel there is NO LOSS GREATER and no matter what; no words can comfort you or change things. I have you and Elizabeth Edwards (lost her son Wade at age 16 / now has INCURABLE cancer). and A cheating husband who she had to leave while dying and caring for her younger children now). I KNOW YOU GUYS ARE MY ROLE MODELS!!!! if you don’t make it I can’t make it!…because I only have stronger people like you and her to look up to help me keep going. SO know that you are not alone and you are HERE FOR A REASON and at this moment I need you to continue to be my role model KEN GREEN if we do something to ourselves God may not allow us to EVER see our children again, because we may not make it to Heaven where we KNOW they are now.

  3. RJ says:

    It’s very disturbing to read that letter submitted by Brooke Baker…very disturbing! While he may have actually written that, it is no doubt a painful case of ignorant, and psychotic brainwashing on his mother’s part. I think all of us, most of whom have never even met you before, know the kind of person you are, and what kind of people this other “family” is. I’ve always said I don’t like people that do good things, I like people with a good heart. While you may not have always done the right things in life, you have a good heart, and that is what matters most. I don’t necessarily believe in God, I am strictly agnostic, but I know you do, Ken. Hopefully you can do some praying of your own for you son’s family, it is quite obvious they need all the help they can get.

    On another note, if you read this maybe you can clarify something in your next blog..are you actually playing in the upcoming Sunbelt Senior tournament you spoke about?

  4. a friend says:

    just know that we can do all things throug christ are lord you will be in are prayers

  5. Colonel says:

    Ken just called me and asked me to re-instate Ellen’s daughter’s Comment to KG’s Blog #32 that she made on Tue. Jan26 at 4:55pm. Initially, it got by me in the Flood of Supporting Comments that poured in on Tuesday following the CBS and AP articles, and it got ‘approved’ to show in the list. I certainly would NEVER have allowed such an Evil, Hateful post to appear on this website, but it obviously got by me. Busy at the hospital with my wife (she’s FINE now!), I didn’t even know it was out there until Wednesday when a friend emailed me about it. When I found it, I immediately & appropriately pulled it. I emailed my apologies to KG, but he responded, “Don’t worry about brooke’s post, it’s ok. People can tell by that letter how bad they r. B good n best to Dianne.”. Just a few minutes ago, KG called me and asked me to re-instead Brooke’s post – “I want people to see it and judge it for what’s it’s worth and as they see fit.”. So, here it is again, this evil, vicious comment posted to Ken Green’s Blog, essentially to Ken and to all the thousands of Good People Love and Support him:

    Comment to KG’s Blog Post #32:
    Submitted on 2010/01/26 at 4:55pm
    By Brooke Baker
    Here is Hunter’s college admission essay about you, Ken. He wrote this a year ago. This is directly from Hunter. Enjoy!
    “When I was only four years old, my mother and father began a tumultuous visitation battle during their divorce that lasted into my teenage years. If not for my close relationship with my older siblings, I would not have handled the emotional and physical pain all those years. Once my parents told us that they were divorcing, my father asked me to choose who I wanted to live with. Although I was nervous to hurt my father, I chose to live with my mother and siblings. When the battle for custody began, I thought that my father was fighting for me, but I quickly saw that he was fighting to anger my mother. I spent the next nine years, crying and fighting to avoid visitation with my father, then started running away to my mother’s house, which only caused more problems. Then one day, my father just stopped. He stopped visitation, stopped calling, and stopped paying. He never told me why but I know he was done using me as his pawn while fighting in the divorce. My father missed Christmases, my church confirmation, graduation from high school, my battle with kidney failure, and all the important birthdays like thirteen, sixteen and eighteen. He was not working or ill, he lived fifteen minutes away all the while and never though to spend time with me or care about me. Thankfully, I have had my family by my side- my mother, sister and brother. While I sometimes feel like my mother cannot understand the emotional turmoil I feel about my father, my older brother and sister can. The three of us have formed our own unit; we are strong for one another and can always rely on one another.”
    More to come…

  6. FingerBoy says:

    Ken,
    All our prayers are with you. I can’t understand why you have had so much thrown at you and I’m sorry that you have to handle it, but I know you can. I don’t know what to do or say but I’m praying for you and thinking of you all the time. Hope to see you soon.

    May God bless you and show you some extra love.

    Fingerboy

  7. sil witanh says:

    Take time for yourself. Many people may think they know what is good for you, you only know what is best. Being in the public eye, must be overwhelming. I was overwhelmed with people with a death in my family, and it is hard. My prayers are with you.

  8. Joseph Doceti says:

    Let me tell you about the Kenny Green I remember, My mom and Kenny started dating when i was 5.When i was 6 he moved my mom and I from a bad neighborhood in Bridgeport Ct. to his lovely home in West Palm Beach Florida. My mom and I went from eating TV dinners to 3 course meals. I felt like I had won the lotto.We spent 10 years with Kenny Green, and in that ten years he taught me so much. He taught me respect and morals and most of all he taught me how to be a man. Kenny treated me like his own son.

    There is a lot of speculation on how he treated Hunter and let me say, I was there for it all. Hunter and I had a childhood most kids can only dream of. We had wave-runners, Paintball guns, motor scooters, anything we could possibly want. We even had a real arcade set up in the garage.Whatever we wanted we got, money was no object. Kenny would do anything to make us happy and make sure we were never bored.We would do some of the craziest things, like playing paintball inside the house. Or playing night golf through the neighborhood, banking shots off the neighbors garage through the fence and into the garbage can. Green has an amazing trick shot.He used to bring us to golf tournaments all over the country. Despite the stress of the game he would make sure Hunter and I were having fun no matter what. I remember going to Vegas for tournaments. Hunter and i ran around the mirage hotel like we owned it with VIP badges around our necks, we played golf in the hallways, And we spent countless hours playing video games at treasure island and Caesars palace. It was an unreal Experience. Kenny never once raised a hand to us. Yea when we screwed up we got in trouble, but we never got hit. We got sent to our rooms, where we had tons of video games and toys to play with so we really weren’t upset.Kenny has had quite a battle with hunters mom. I remember she used to drop Hunter off and an hour later the cops would be taking him from us because she would call the cops and make false police reports saying he was beat and hated it there. But it was all a lie, he always had a smile on his face.She made Hunter hate his father.I remember hearing her on the phone telling him to run away. I remember one day i was skating in the driveway and Hunters mom and 2 other kids drove by and shot me with a pellet gun.. Ellen and her 2 other kids are the most sinister people i have ever met, They would break into our house all the time and steal our stuff. I remember them going trough our garbage every week despite us shredding all our papers and putting dog poop in the garbage. She would show up to court with taped together documents that smelled like crap..They are just evil people.I know karma one day will catch up with them.Kenny is a great father.He spent thousands of dollars and tons of courtroom hours battling to see hunter,He loves his kids!He is a great father its a shame Ellen never gave him a chance.Ken Green is my role model.

    Kenny I never got to thank you for the things you did for me and showed me.It was the best 10 years of my life. You made sure i went to the best schools, you took me golfing at least two times a week after school and taught me the game.You introduced me to many celebs and athletes I look up to today. You taught me a lot of lessons. I have taken the lessons you have taught me and applied them to everyday life and now i own a successful Construction company in Danbury and still have a great swing.Its your words of wisdom that got me to where I am today. You don’t get the credit you deserve. you have donated thousands to needy kids and have held tons of celebrity fund raisers to raise money. You are the strongest and most kind man I have ever met. I have a hard time wrapping my head around the accident let alone this.You don’t deserve this. You are a great man and you are a hero. You have to keep your head up. We are counting on you to stay strong..My thoughts and prayers are with you.If there is anything i can do please don’t hesitate to call.God bless you..

    Sincerely- Joseph Doceti Jr.

  9. Srhone says:

    I have prayed for you Ken…don’t ever give up on God for He cares and loves you…You’re like the modern day Job from the bible…and the ending of that story is that God restored unto him double for what He lost…keep going!

  10. Ivy says:

    I am so, so sorry to hear about your loss.

  11. Andy Farrand says:

    Mr. Green:

    Mr. Green I read with great sorrow today about the loss of your son. There is nothing crueler in nature than dying out of chronological order. Our youngest son died in 48 hours from the effects of a bacterial infection that led to septic shock and his death. It is impossible to understand, as others as others have noted herein, how impossibly painful this is. I started going to a group called Compassionate Friends, which has chapters all over US and the world, composed of families who have lost children for one reason or another. It is great and folks shares with the group what happened and how they are doing. Andrew died almost 4 years ago, and it still feels as though his death ushered in my own, so I hope you are doing better than I. Go to CF if you can and see it can help resolve some of the issues with you must be dealing, even without the imposition of your marital issues. It quite literally saved my life. And NEVER let anyone tell you he is in a better place. That is just BS. A better place is here on earth with you and his family. It is such an unknowingly cruel thing to say.

    Andy F.

  12. Deb says:

    Ken…

    I have never watched Bryant Gumbel’s show but one afternoon I somehow found myself watching and was very moved by your story. Then, today, I saw that you have lost a son. My heart goes out to you. One August day, 7 1/2 years ago, I went to wake up my 18 year old son….only to my devastation, to find him dead in his bed. I know the agony of losing a child…it is indescribable. I know the chance of actually talking to you is remote…but I want you to know that you are not alone in this pain. Those of us who have to bury our children belong to a club we never wanted to join. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

    Debbie

  13. Ken,

    WOW! You must find the strength to keep going. I as a father of 4, cannot imagine what you a re going thru. My father just suffered a stroke this week. Knowing how that has shocked the family, I cannot imagine the loss of a child.

    I am asking our Lord to bless you and give you strenght to continue your journey thru these trying times.

    I feel so so bad for your loss! Oh my goodness! Please accept our sympathy.

    Wayne & Family

  14. Loretta says:

    I am truly sorry for your pain…I cannot imagine your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. There have been so many beautiful responses….there a a lot of people praying for you and I belive in the POWER OF PRAYER!!!

  15. Debra Miner says:

    So, so sorry to hear of your loss. I felt the same way almost 8 years ago and sometimes still do. My son had just turned 21 and a good boy. He was killed in a car accident, fell asleep while driving due to allergy medication. I feel your pain. I can relate. He was our only son. Me and my husband will certainly pray for you and your family and for the upcoming days ahead. Rest assure he is in heaven with our heavenly father until we meet again.

    In deepest sympathy,
    Terry & Debbie Miner

  16. Cynthia says:

    Mr. Green:

    I do not know you personally but I do know the pain of losing three children. Each at a different time. I hope you know that even though you may have had a difficult relationship with you son, our children know deep in their hearts that we love them.

    I once asked a good friend how he survived the loss of his legs (I had just lost my first daughter to a murder) His reply was this: Each morning when I wake up and I stretch out my arms and I don’t touch the sides of a casket is another day I get to make the most of my life. He then reminded me that I could live my life to the fullest by using my days to honor my daughter.

    I do. You will too, Mr. Green. May God bless and keep you in the palm of His hand.

    Warmest regards,

    Cynthia

  17. Karen says:

    I am sorry that you have sustained this tragedy…I couldn’t even imagine losing a child. I am sorry that your chance at having a relationship with your son was taken away from a selfish woman and to NOT tell you that your son had passed…HOW SELF RIGHTOUS is that?!?! She will always have to live with that feeling of loss inside her, that she caused this distruction in her own son! For you I will pray that you find healing in your heart and comfort from the hands of God as he wraps his arms around you. Open your Bible and read and pray and you can get through this, you will still have moments of anger but, God can help you through. If you want to make a stand from your experience please fight for the non-custodial parents. My husband has a difficult time with his ex just keeping the visitation schedule that is court ordered and to get extra time that is a joke. The courts do nothing for these fathers but, harass them if they are a day late or dollar short on their support. So, someone like yourself who has to go in debt for your ex and then she is able to keep your son from you, this should not be acceptable from the courts or from the lawmakers. Keep your head up and I will be looking for you out on the course again soon….

  18. Richard says:

    Ken: We lost our eldest son this past April to Soma and perscription pain pills that he became addicted to several years ago; we tried to help but did not have the tools, knowledge or understanding to save him. We loved our son without end and the pain never stops. We are both in counselling now but we both have our good days and bad days. I feel your pain and can only say that keeping busy will help as time heals the deep wound. But, you must forgive yourself first for anything you feel you could have done but did not do. Nothing can change what has happened and only you and your loved ones can help you now to move on and remember the good times that you all shared. No matter the cause or reasons, recrimination and self hatred only makes the situation worse and slows the healing. IN HOC SIGNO VINCES.

  19. Kathy says:

    We may be strangers but I’m on my knees in Kentucky for you, Ken! I’m so unbelievably sorry for your loss.

  20. Phillip says:

    “Jesus I ask you to give Ken a sense of hope and the encouragement he desperately needs during this time. And may he come to know you even more personally than ever before through this. May your peace be his strength. Amen.”

  21. Jason says:

    Hi Ken,
    I came across an article about you on yahoo sports about your recent unfortunate events. Your story has been so moving to me that I just had to send out my condolences. I am about your son’s age, and lost my father at age 15 to cancer. The pain was almost unbearable at first, but I have come to learn that the saying “what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger,” is in fact true.

    I KNOW it is possible that you can push through these tragedies and continue to focus on your comeback to golf, if not for yourself then for your son and all loved ones living and deceased. Stay strong and best wishes.

  22. grace says:

    Ken,
    I don’t know anything about golf, but I’m well versed in pain. I just happened across your story today and was overcome with grief for you and your family. I have prayed here for you all, knowing the only comfort lies within Him. What blessings He must have in store for you dear. You must be someone very special, Ken. As the exquisite pain leaves some room, remember Job; God was so very proud of him that he was willing for him to be tested and tried. Job withstood these tests, just as you are. While people cannot be replaced, God can certainly cover the hurts we have with the balm of his everlasting love in a way that I know I am unable to explain – I would never have believed it myself. My family and I will keep you and your loved ones in our prayers.

  23. Karlene says:

    My prayers go out to you and your family during this period. You all will get through this but know he’s at peace and with his Father…. God Bless..

    Sincerly,
    Karlene

  24. Janet C. says:

    My sympathys are with you Ken. Nothing is harder then losing a son or daughter. I can’t imagine the pain you are going through. You will get through this my dear,one day at a time is all I can tell you. You are still young and have a lot left in you to give to yourself and others. Do not give up. God Bless you and your family.

  25. Wyman says:

    Sorry to hear of all the tragedy that has befallen your life. Life will never be the same because of these events, but my prayer is your life will be renewed in ways that are personally and spiritually rewarding to you.

  26. Melinda says:

    Ken-

    There are no words I can give that will ever suffice, no comfort could ever surcease your suffering and for these things, for your loss and being lost, I am truly sorry. You walk a path hundreds tremble at the terror of, and an equal number cleanse in their own tears. I would only ask that you reach out to those who suffer as you do, stand with them and hold them as they falter along this parental nightmare, so that they might support you as you stumble through your own surrender to your grief. Stay with us, and we will hold you in our hearts each and every day, carrying you aloft to benevolent ears on our prayers. Finally, continue walking the green, looking skyward for your family, because there you will find them, smiling down on you. In each golden ray of the sun, on every cloud, with every whisper of the wind, you will feel them with you, forever in your heart. Take comfort in knowing there truly never is an end, only a changing, a continuation. The have gone on to the second leg, another course KG, there they are waiting for us all. In His own time, we will all be joining them.

  27. Phillip says:

    Ken,

    Very sorry to hear of your sons passing. My family s prayers are with you.

    Phillip

  28. Patrick says:

    Many prayers for you today Ken. I, too lost a son at about the same age 4 years ago so I know exactly what this feels like. It it the worst possible thing that can happen to a father. It shakes your faith greatly and you just wonder if life is ever going to stop dealing you these nasty blows. I pray and wish and hope the very best for you as you try to get through this, because I know how difficult it is. Hang in there, and God bless you my friend.

  29. Gina says:

    It is deeply sad. You and your family are in my prayers. May the understanding you seek find you.

  30. Mary says:

    You have had a rough road. I saw your interview with Bryant Gumbel and was amazed at what you have already endured in your life, and then my husband said your son had passed this week. Not many people in this world are tested. You have been, repeatedly, and you are still standing. I can tell you that many would have fallen just by the depression alone. You may not feel like it, but you are an inspiration to many. Life is an uphill battle, every single day, for a lot of us walking around here trying to figure it all out. You are a light in the darkness. I can tell you that a lot of people questioning what it’s all about, can look at your story and say, “He did it. He’s amazing. Let me be as strong as Ken Green, just for one more day.”
    May God bless you and watch over you. Keep fighting the fight, Ken. Be strong. We all do eventually pass over, and that’s when it will all make sense.

  31. Becky says:

    Pray and ask God for peace and comfort. He is the only one that will be there for you when you are alone. God has been trying to speak to you. One day at a time with God. Cry out to him for help.

  32. Jessica says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Rest easy knowing Hunter is in the arms of loved ones and his maker.

  33. Pat says:

    You are in my prayers. Please hang in there and do the best to keep everyone together. It is hard, take it one day at a time. BE STRONG

  34. The Sheehan Family says:

    Dear Ken,
    Please accept our condolences on the loss of your son Hunter. It seems you have been through so much…so much that it’s hard to understand why. Please know that we are praying for you. You have received so many encouraging comments from your fans and from people who understand what you’re going through. We can never understand God’s ways but please know that this is the time to seek Him. He will wrap His loving arms around you and give you peace. We will continue to pray for you.
    Peace & love,
    The Sheehan Family

  35. Lynn Miller says:

    Ken,
    Your pain is undoubtedly without end right now. It won’t go away, but with time, it will ease. In my mind, estranging a child from a parent for any reason (other than some sort of abuse) is criminal. When my ex-husband and I divorced, I did everything in my power to allow my children to continue to have a relationship with their dad. It wasn’t always easy, but parents owe that to their children. I am a child of divorce, and I know the pain of not being allowed to see or spend time with my dad. My heart goes out to you. Do not give up your life for something you now have no power to change. The best thing you can do is be a public spokesman for the rights of non-custodial parents. The courts give certain directives for visitations and custody, but they are largely not enforced. The change must come from inside the hearts of parents.

  36. JohnB says:

    You and your son are in my my prayers. I wish you both peace.

  37. Under Stand says:

    I am so sorry. There are no words strong enough to comfort you at this time. I want you to know that I understand being separated from your children, and how bitter a situation can become, to the detriment of all involved. NO ONE WINS. NO ONE. Why people fail to realize this fact is beyond my realm of understanding.

    To have things end this way, before you and your son were able to once again “find each other again” is devastating. To you, I wish peace… Sheer peace. It’s so difficult to come by, isn’t it?

    You’re in my thoughts….

  38. David says:

    My condolences on the passing of our son. But, his life is not over. Dead to this world, life in eternity with Jesus Christ is the gift that God has given to us to those who have accepted Him as King and Ruler of our life. I pray this is the case in your son’s live, yours and family.

    If so, you will see him again for eternity. What a blessing! May you search God almighty in times like this. God bless you, David

  39. Kerry says:

    Ken,

    I have been moved to tears since reading your blog today regarding the death of your son, as well as the other tragedies you have been faced with during your life. I saw first hand the pain and anguish the death of a child has on a parent as my best friend lost her son a year ago in a tragic accident. Although, my children are still with me, I am very sensitive to your suffering and pain. Years ago, my father underwent a physical altering surgery due to a major illness. His friend gave him the book ‘why bad things happen to good people’. I do not recall the author, but I know this book helped my father tremendously in coming to terms with his altered body after the surgery.

    I will pray for your emotional and physical healing. I am deeply sorry for your loss.

  40. Ernie Meyer says:

    A friend of mine lost his daughter so many years ago and talking to him, I said I wanted to say I knew how he felt but I could not because I did not know how he felt. Then, last July my 10 yr old grandson was killed in a freak accident and the pain has been gut wrenching. My heart is with you Ken and so many friends and people you never knew were friends will comfort you. My grandson was honored by Troy Tulowinski, Short stop for the Colorado Rockies. I always knew my grandson was going to make the majors. Tulo made it happen. I pray that we both will find comfort with time. I know your pain.

    Your unknown friend, Ernie

  41. Mbasa says:

    Soory for what happened to my brother Hunter. God gives and when time comes no one can decide. Keep strong.
    Mbs

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