KG’s Blog Post #33 – 1/27/10 12:59pm
Hello My Friends,
I’m disgusted with myself for what i am about to do and say. I can’t hold back my pain and emotions in reference to Hunter’s family. I believe I am dishonoring the death of my son, but the human in me is failing at doing the honorable thing. This will be my last blog on the awful situation.
I will not even comment on the letter submitted by my once daughter Brooke. It is all public knowledge in the courthouse on all my fights regarding visitation of my son.
The mother of these 3 children have two different fathers and they both have been so called awful dads. We both lost out on our children. The thought once can be true, but two really show the story is just obvious.
I know that when God brings me home I will be able to look him in the face and know I did not dishonor him in regards to Hunter.
On another point, I would like to tell you about Mr. Munch. Since I found out about Hunter’s death, he has stuck to me like clue. It’s amazing even at 5 1/2 months he can sense that his daddy is not feeling right.
I thank you all for your kind words and i wish you all the best.
Please forgive me for my anger and emotions.
Ken
Ken, I’m sorry for your loss and the tragedies that have come before you. I can’t even begin to imagine. I wanted to comment on your ex. I’ve been through similar, and I’m not sure if you know that you are not alone. This is called Parental Alienation and there is currently a debate as to whether it can be classified as a “syndrome” in the DSM. Parental Alienation and Interference with Visitation affects 6 million kids in this country yearly.
Again, I’m sorry you have to endure your pain.
Bill
Ken,
I cannot tell you how brokenhearted i was when i read this. I have wanted to talk to you for a long time. I have friends that play on the tour with you. I almost asked one to give me your email so we could chat. We have such similar paths it is amazing. I feel for you, I am praying for you. I wish you the strength of the Lord to get you throgh this. I know your pain all to well. Best wishes for finding peace in all this. One day we will say hello, i hope to be in the ropes when you tee it up again.
I am so very sorry to hear of your son’s passing. When I lot my brother in 1996,I found great comfort and understanding at Thecompassionatefriends.org .It is a website where people who have lost their child or sibling can chat and find caring friends who understand their loss.
My prayers are with you now in this difficult time of transition.
May God bless you always.
Martha
Dear Mr. Green,
I am sorry to read about your son. Losing someone in death can bring much pain and grief. The feelings of helplessness can seem unbearable. The Bible can be of much during such a difficult time. John 5:28,29 says “Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment.” Psalm 37:11 says “But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, And they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace.” Revelation 21:3-5 says “With that I heard a loud voice from the throne say: “Look! The tent of God is with mankind, and he will reside with them, and they will be his peoples. And God himself will be with them. 4 And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” 5 And the One seated on the throne said: “Look! I am making all things new.” Also, he says: “Write, because these words are faithful and true.” According to God’s Word the Bible dead ones will live again and they will possess the earth in peaceful conditions. Please be comforted by the words.
Ken,
My heart breaks for you. You have endured so much pain in your life. You are in my prayers. And don’t let any of those other people in your life get you down. I made a comment on DMN’s website yesterday that it was really a shame that Brooke felt the need to make a jab at you in her “prepared statement.” You’re obviously a much better person than any of them will ever be. Keep your chin up.
Ken,
Trust me Ken, Even though I have only been following your story since the Tragic news about Hunter, and I can tell you that all of us here posting (Except Brooke Baker) Can tell the kind of Character Brooke and her mother have (Thanks to Brooke herself.) What kind of person would, or could, be so spiteful at a time she should be mourning? After being through two litigated custody battles, let me tell everyone here, that the emotional toll that a custody battle is unimaginable. I am 1000% sure that you, Ken, did not put yourself through your custody battle just to anger Hunters mom. You did it of your Love for your son, Hunter. Brooke’s action and Hunter’s comments makes it perfectly clear that they were victims of Parental Alienation inflicted by their mother.
And Brooke, if you are reading this, do some research on Parental Alienation and see if anything you find is consistant with what you experienced in your life. Did your mom ever speak bad of Ken in front of you and Hunter? I would say yes, if she can say the things she said of Ken in front of the whole world on the internet, she definately can say bad things of Ken to you behind closed doors. Any good parent that is divorced, and are in a position to have to co-parent, will tell you that belittling the other parent is the WORST things you can do. And be honest with yourself if thats possible. Either way, I hope that you and your mom will find peace one day and can live without hate and spite in your heart.
Ken, good luck to you, keep blogging, stay healthy, I hope one day I can shake your hand and say thanks for being such an inpiration.
Best Wishes
John R
itz_me_john@yahoo.com
Ken,
I never visited your blog until today; I’m sorry for the situation and your post that brought me here. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. There’s not much to say to ease the pain, but please don’t give up hope. I hope that I never have to go through the same pain you have and hope that you can muster the strength to endure these hardships. May God be with you.
Tom
Oh My Where Do I Begin With The Pain You Are Suffering. I have 2 daughters but really in reality only one (my first). My ex-husband to my 2nd daughter got remarried to a women who could not have children and she did all she could to influence my 2nd who was 5yrs old at the time to not only create hatred towards me but to take me out of her life completely, with ficticious lies, stories etc. Now she is almost 29yrs of age and sadly to say I have accepted the pain of releasing her from my life and knowing now that I am only BIOLOCIGALLY CONNECTED. I am at peace now with my decision and her half sister and her have reunited after all these years which is good. When all this happened it was like death to me on a child I loved and through the years missed so much it hurt. But I am at peace like I said and I think now only of the memories I hold in my heart and mind that were good ones.
God Bless You through All This and I do Hope You Will Find Peace as I Did!
Ken,
I wish I had some words of wisdom that I thought could help you. I have gone through a fair amount of heartache in the past 2 years, but it pales in comparison to what you have gone through and continue to go through. I will say a prayer for you. I don’t know if it would be helpful (but it did help me), but an insightful and inspiring book is Walking With God on the Road That You Never Wanted to Travel. If I knew where to send it, I would buy a copy and send it to you. It will get better, but it will change you forever…
May God go with you,
Mark
PS. If you are ever in Wisconsin, I would love to golf with you. I am very mediocre, but love the game…
Dear Ken,
I’m deeply saddened by the string of tragedies in your life. No dishonor to Hunter will be seen in the expression of truth in this time of despair. Don’t burden yourself with guilt for a situation you have no control. I’ve lost a daughter too, lost her to the hatred of a mother who can’t see the damage and pain she’s causing her own children. But with prayers and hope in my heart I wish one day reunite with her. I’ll hold the same prayers and hope for you. Love in our hearts and righteousness in deed, doing what we believe the right thing will only bring good to us and those who surround us. Stay strong Ken.
Hi Ken,
I am so sorry about your loss. At times like this words to comfort others can fail us, so I share this Bible tract with you entitled, What Hope for Dead Loved Ones?
“If a man die, shall he live again?” asked the man Job long ago. (Job 14:14, King James Version) Perhaps you, too, have wondered about this. How would you feel if you knew that a reunion with your loved ones was possible right here on earth under the best of conditions?
Well, the Bible makes the promise: “Your dead ones will live. . . . They will rise up.” And the Bible also says: “The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it.”—Isaiah 26:19; Psalm 37:29.
To have real confidence in such promises, we need to answer some basic questions: Why do people die? Where are the dead? And how can we be sure they can live again?
Death, and What Happens When We Die
The Bible makes it clear that God did not originally intend for humans to die. He created the first human pair Adam and Eve, placed them in an earthly paradise called Eden, and instructed them to have children and extend their Paradise home earth wide. They would die only if they disobeyed his instructions.—Genesis 1:28; 2:15-17.
Lacking appreciation for God’s kindness, Adam and Eve did disobey and were made to pay the prescribed penalty. “You [will] return to the ground,” God told Adam, “for out of it you were taken. For dust you are and to dust you will return.” (Genesis 3:19) Before his creation Adam did not exist; he was dust. And for his disobedience, or sin, Adam was sentenced to return to dust, to a state of nonexistence.
Death is thus an absence of life. The Bible draws the contrast: “The wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life.” (Romans 6:23) Showing that death is a state of total unconsciousness, the Bible says: “For the living are conscious that they will die; but as for the dead, they are conscious of nothing at all.” (Ecclesiastes 9:5) When a person dies, the Bible explains: “His spirit goes out, he goes back to his ground; in that day his thoughts do perish.”—Psalm 146:3, 4.
However, since only Adam and Eve disobeyed that command in Eden, why do we all die? It is because all of us were born after Adam’s disobedience, and so we all inherited sin and death from him. As the Bible explains: “Through one man [Adam] sin entered into the world and death through sin, and thus death spread to all men.”—Romans 5:12; Job 14:4.
Yet someone may ask: ‘Don’t humans have an immortal soul that survives death?’ Many have taught this, even saying that death is a doorway to another life. But that idea does not come from the Bible. Rather, God’s Word teaches that you are a soul, that your soul is really you, with all your physical and mental qualities. (Genesis 2:7; Jeremiah 2:34; Proverbs 2:10) Also, the Bible says: “The soul that is sinning—it itself will die.” (Ezekiel 18:4) Nowhere does the Bible teach that man has an immortal soul that survives the death of the body.
How Humans Can Live Again
After sin and death entered the world, God revealed that it was his purpose that the dead be restored to life by means of a resurrection. Thus the Bible explains: “Abraham . . . reckoned that God was able to raise [his son Isaac] up even from the dead.” (Hebrews 11:17-19) Abraham’s confidence was not misplaced, for the Bible says of the Almighty: “He is a God, not of the dead, but of the living, for they are all living to him.”—Luke 20:37, 38.
Yes, Almighty God has not only the power but also the desire to resurrect persons whom he chooses. Jesus Christ himself said: “Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.”—John 5:28, 29; Acts 24:15.
Not long after saying this, Jesus met a funeral procession coming out of the Israelite city of Nain. The dead young man was the only child of a widow. On seeing her extreme grief, Jesus was moved with pity. So, addressing the corpse, he commanded: “Young man, I say to you, Get up!” And the man sat up, and Jesus gave him to his mother.—Luke 7:11-17.
As in the case of that widow, there was also great ecstasy when Jesus visited the home of Jairus, a presiding officer of the Jewish synagogue. His 12-year-old daughter had died. But when Jesus arrived at Jairus’ home, he went over to the dead child and said: “Girl, get up!” And she did!—Luke 8:40-56.
Later, Jesus’ friend Lazarus died. When Jesus arrived at his home, Lazarus had been dead for four days. Although deeply grieved, his sister Martha expressed hope, saying: “I know he will rise in the resurrection on the last day.” But Jesus went to the tomb, ordered the stone to be removed, and called: “Lazarus, come on out!” And he did!—John 11:11-44.
Now think about this: What was Lazarus’ condition during those four days he was dead? Lazarus did not say anything about being in a heaven of bliss or a hell of torment, which surely he would have done if he had been there. No, Lazarus was completely unconscious in death and would have remained so until “the resurrection on the last day” if Jesus had not then restored him to life.
It is true that these miracles of Jesus were of only temporary benefit, since those that he resurrected died again. However, he gave proof 1,900 years ago that, with God’s power, the dead really can live again! So by his miracles Jesus showed on a small scale what will take place on earth under the Kingdom of God.
When a Loved One Dies
When the enemy death strikes, your grief can be great, even though you may hope in the resurrection. Abraham had faith his wife would live again, yet we read that “Abraham came in to bewail Sarah and to weep over her.” (Genesis 23:2) And what about Jesus? When Lazarus died, he “groaned in the spirit and became troubled,” and shortly afterward he “gave way to tears.” (John 11:33, 35) So, when someone you love dies, it does not show weakness to cry.
When a child dies, it is particularly hard for the mother. Thus the Bible acknowledges the bitter grief that a mother can feel. (2 Kings 4:27) Of course, it is difficult for the bereaved father as well. “O that I might have died, I myself, instead of you,” lamented King David when his son Absalom died.—2 Samuel 18:33.
Yet, because you have confidence in the resurrection, your sorrow will not be unrelenting. As the Bible says, you will “not sorrow just as the rest also do who have no hope.” (1 Thessalonians 4:13) Rather, you will draw close to God in prayer, and the Bible promises that “he himself will sustain you.”—Psalm 55:22.
-david
Ken,
I think your son knew in his heart that you were the best dad you could be to him. My mom attempted to poison me against my father who was absent most of my life. I knew that dealing with my mother was what kept him away. He loved me though, long distance or not, I felt it. I am so sorry for your loss and I am sure that your son knew your heart. We should never have to endure outliving our children. Peace and love to you. Marshell Ann Wright
John 11:25,26 has been a comfort to me during a time of loss in my life. Keep your chin up, it is easier to breath while in deep … uh …water?! I’m sure your son would rather be a reason to WIN in your life, and not part of your down-fall!!!!
Dearest Ken,
Please know that you have many prayers at this time. You are living the nightmare that every parent fears. You remind me of the book of Job in the bible. You have had some pretty rough times and I just wanted you to know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers today and in the future days ahead.
Ken, I saw this on yahoo and my heart breaks for you. I was a parent that was so angry with my childrens father. I never stopped them from visiting him and in fact paid to fly them to see him but they always knew my anger at their father. It is so unfair for parents to visit that on their child. I know that now and see the effects it has had on my grown children. I can never apologize enough to my children.
I pray that you and your family find peace and allow this horrible loss to make things different for you and your daughter. My prayers are with you.
IM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOST I HAD 4 FAMILY MEMBERS WHO DIED THE PAST 3 YEARS ITS BEEN A ROLLERCOASTER RIDE ONCE YOUR UP ONCE YOUR DOWN ITS A CRYING MOMENT NOT A DAY GO BY WHER I DONT THINK OF THEM GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY THEW THIS TIME
Ken, I never knew you personally but I used to track your play very close. I attended and followed you during the GGO – Greater Greensboro Open I guess a little more than a decade ago. I will never forget the shoes. And you had a fierce attitude. I am an amateur player about your age (52). I am struggling to get my game back, I play to a 7 now, and have had some difficulties in my life but nothing to compare to what you’ve lived through. I followed the accident in the news each day but I must apologize that I was unaware of Hunter. So So sorry. I lost my niece when she was a senior at Auburn. Without a doubt there is nothing worse in life than losing a child. I am happy I accidentally crossed paths with your website because I was and still am a fan. I was born on April 9, 1957, the same day as Seve, so I follow his site as well. Both of you guys were great in your time and hopefully there some competitive play left in you. Growing up I always wanted to play professional golf but now I know the challenge and stress of it all would put me in the nut house. There’s nothing I can do for you specifically but try to touch base with an old warrior and pull for you. You don’t have to win you just have to wear the bastards down. I hope you have a good day today.
Firstly I want to tell you how horribly sorry I am for your loss. Your daughter, and ex-wife both need to realize you are hurting just as much as everyone else, maybe more. I am also in the same shoes as you with a 20 year old daughter. Mother did the same thing to me as well. I don’t hold a grudge against either, just very confused. Secondly, I would like for you to realize that you have scores of friends and fans that you have never met that are praying for you and your entire family. If I were there, I would shake your hand give you a big hug, cry with you, and pat you on the back. You are on a different kind of journey than others, why the good Lord has put you on this path, only he knows. Just remember, you have many friends out here. Drop me an email if you ever feel the need, and my family door is always open. Sincerely, Casey Bennett, San Angelo, TX
I just saw a documentary on HBO about all the suffering and pain you have endured. I was so impressed to see you overcome all of them, but this morning I read about your son’s passing. Please know that even though i don’t know you, I felt pain in my soul for you.
I am so sorry for your loss, and will be praying for you. I hope that you will have strenght and wisdom to overcome all of this.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you….. God Bless you and may Hunter rest in peace. Love, the Fedigan Family
My prayers are with you and your family. I am sorry for the loss of your son. I am sure he knew you loved him and was proud of him. It can be difficult in divorce to see what is best for the kids. You seemed to always keep their needs first. Take care of yourself.
I’ll pray for you, Ken.
Mr. Green,
My family and I would like to extend our most heartfelt sympathy for you terrible loss. We hope that the memory of your son, Hunter, will help you in your grief. We will be praying for you.
Ken,
I echo the other posters’ deepest condolences for your loss. I have been following your comeback since reading about your awful accident several months ago in Golf Digest and the recent HBO segment on Real Sports. Although I was a bit too young to follow your early career, your commitment to regain your playing form in the face of seemingly insurmountable odds is a true testament to the strength of the human spirit and had me hooked instantly. I understand untimely losses of loved ones, having lost my father to cancer when I was 11 years old. Although all the questions surrounding the loss of your son may never be answered, there can be no question that you loved your son unconditionally and he loved you the same. I know your son took inspiration from you, probably more so than those of us who don’t know you but are rooting for you from afar. None of us are perfect sons, fathers, or spouses. We all suffer raw emotions and make mistakes in life – it’s what makes us human. Take your time to grieve. You are a decent, good man, and deserve to find happiness again. I sincerely hope for your ultimate success in finding peace and prosperity both in life and golf. Please know there are many of us rooting you on, and you have at least one “caddy” upstairs smiling down on you, guiding your shots from here on out.
Ken,
Be strong but don’t be afraid to embrace support.
Tommy
God bless you Ken! Know that we pray for you and that we our sending our most positive energy your way. Know that there are people out in the world who truly care about you. Peace,love,and healing.
Ken-I am very sorry for your loss. I’ve followed your career for many many years and last saw you at Kingsmill sometime around 2000 or so. You had gotten a late entry into the tourney and I heard you guys drove all night to get there. I’m not sure it was Hunter who was following you outside the ropes that day or not, but he and I struck up a short conversation when he noticed me following you for a few holes. I said to him “You’re with Ken?” and he said “Yeah, that’s my Dad.” He asked me if I wanted an autographed ball “or something” and I told him “Sure” (my golf buddies at the Navy Course in Virginia Beach were all fans of yours-We even used the name K. Green to get tee times sometimes). Funny thing is that just then you 3-jacked the 9th hole and he was about to go talk to you and I said “Oh, no, that’s cool. Let’s do it some other time.” I told him to tell you that you had a fan club in the Navy. I hope he did. We’re still out here pulling for you. See you on tour……RIP Hunter!
Yo Ken,
I feel ya man. Some jacked up things just happen. I lost it all myself a couple of times. Nothing like you,but Like you i’m fighting to be better n better.
Dont give up the fight man. We’ll be lookin for ya out there on the course.
Luis del Carpio
Strength and Conditioning coach, and Physio for China National Woman’s GOlf Team.
Hey Ken, I’m sure no one can even get close to the tragedy that has occurred in your life this past year. My prayers are with you. My name is Kevin Jones and I live in Mobile, Al. I saw the report when you had your accident this past summer and I wanted to get in touch with you regarding your injury and your recovery. I lost my leg 10 years ago due to an auto accident when I was living in Dothan, Al. I developed an infection while I was in the hospital and l was discharged with the infection still remaining. I got back to Pensacola where my father is retired and I saw my family Docter who sent me to the Wound Care Clinic at West Florida Hospital. 3 days later on my dads birthday they amputated my left leg 8 inches above my knee. Originally the orthopedic surgeon wanted to take my leg off at the hip. It was sort of crazy, the day he came into my room I could tell exactly what he was going to say to me. What a reality check. But I knew it was going to happen. My infection had become so aggressive that I was dying and the docter wanted to try save my life. The crazy thing was I didn’t plan on giving up, the only thing I wanted to do was to be able to play golf again. The day he came into my room and told me what options we had the only thing I asked to do was to leave me enough of a residual limb to be able to wear a prosthetic leg. The orthopedic surgeon who took my leg off was able to salvage my calf muscle and fold it back on top of my thigh where most of the infection had destroyed the muscle structure. days after my surgery my first child was born. You want to talk about recovery medicine? All I wanted to do was get better so I could be with my wife and my daughter. The reason I am responding to you today is I saw the special on HBO with Bryant Gumbel last night and I thought it was fantastic. I can’t imagine where your mind set is now but I want to let you know that we are all praying for you during your recovery. The first day I received my initial prosthetic leg I wanted to get out to the golf course. I was still living in Dothan and I played the Robert Trent Jones course there.I talked my wife into letting me take her to the par 3 course at Highland Oaks much to her dismay. I don’t know what you expiernced when you first got back to the course and the range but my experience was pretty entertaining. Before my accident I was a pretty good golfer (nothing great, low to mid 80′s on a regular basis).Not knowing what to expect I convinced my wife to take me out to the course. First tee, 4 iron 165 yards take a swing and completely whiff and fall over. As I am laying on the ground my wife runs over to me and asks me if I’m ok. I’m laying on the ground laughing,trying to get back up.This continued throughout the afternoon but I was able to hit the ball. I even pared the 15th hole which was fantastic for me. You know for an average golfer all it takes is a good drive or a good putt or a good iron shot to keep us wanting to keep coming out and continue to want to play. I’m sorry to bother you with my story but I believe you can do what you put your mind to. You said you would know how you would do by July, don’t rush it. You need to recover physically ( left ankle ) and emotionally. It is not an easy thing to do, I’m just a regular guy who just wanted to drop you line to say if you need to chat feel free. Hopefully you get a chance to read this and know that people out here are hoping for a speedy recovery and get to see you back out on the tour. I know you realize things don’t happen overnight be patient and keep working hard. Our prayers are with you. Kevin Jones
Dear Ken,
First of all I am sorry for your loss and all of the suffering you have had to go through this past year. Life can be so cruel. Stay strong and be brave. We are always here to support you. Write whatever you want to get off your chest and we will listen.
Be as strong as you possibly can after such a tragedy, keep Hunter alive in you and your memories. You are in my thoughts.
It is okay to be angry. Anger is part of grief and it sounds like u have alot to be angry about. My heart goes out to you. In my opinion it doesnt matter what kind of relationship you had with Hunter or his family You deserve respect for your feelings by them during this time. You will always be his father. I just want you to know that that I cant imagine being in your place and I am praying for you.
Ken,
I am an out of work GC Superintendnet that was just searching the net tonight look for some new opportunies, when I read an artical about your son. I can imagine it must be difficult to even read these heartfelt messages. I’m a dad to be and can’t even begin to understand your pain and frustration. I do believe that God is the mender of broken hearts and my family is praying for the hearts of your loved ones and you Ken. –JCW
Hey Ken,
I never watched a moment of golf and to be honest I have no idea who you are. What I want to say is life can throw everything at you, but I truly believe you are a strong person. Don’t let it bring you down cause I for one will be sadden. I can’t even imagine what you are going through but know that I am thinking of you and I hope that you can draw strength from this.
Although we may not know each other, know that you are never without love.
Wayne Leung
i read about your story and also saw you on tv just last week, i have thought alot about your life and difficult times, and tonite i read about the loss of your beloved son, hunter, i am so very sorry for your loss, i pray for you and hope you can continue to comeback strong and honor your son, he would have wanted you to succeed, again, i am so sorry for your loss, god bless you, stay strong
Your obvious pain is testimony enough to the kind of dad you are. You love your children deeply and you do the best that you can. That’s it…and… that is all that is required. We are all imperfect and our God and creator loves us each, knowing and seeing every flaw. I see that you are a brave and kindhearted man. The pain that others inflict on you stems largely from their own imperfections. You love your son Hunter. That is clear. I will tell you this…Hunter knows the truth. Hunter knows how you grieve and that you love him with all your heart. God Bless you, Ken. I don’t know anything about golf, but I know a good man when I see one.
I will pray for you.
Cindy in Texas
Ken,
My heart really goes out to you and I want you to know that I will be praying for you and your family. I went through a series of tragedies and then the loss of my 4 year old daughter and I thought I would not, could not and did not even want to survive. It was a long, dark journey. You are a survivor. You are a fighter. Most people could not have survived what you have already walked through. There is a strength in you that even you don’t understand and that strength is there for a reason. Hold on…when you can do nothing else… just hold on! Don’t let others project their own guilt on you. Tragedy breeds anger and that anger is often misplaced. I pray God will give you his peace that surpasses all understanding and that he will cradle you in his arms and carry you through this dark place. Hold on…having done all to stand…just stand. God bless you
Mr. Green,
I’ll be honest. I don’t follow golf, don’t like golf and until last night had never heard your name. Then I saw the program on TV that detail your career and tragic accident that took the lives of alot of those you loved and trusted. My heart truly went out to you in hopes that you can recover from all the tragedy that has come your way.
This is another dagger that took the wind from my sails as I could only imagine your pain, the pain that I could never imagine in my worst nightmares. I can only hope (I’m not religious so I don’t pray) that you can find the strength to keep going and get thru this.
I know that mortal man can only take so much but I hope that you can find that inner strength that helps you to push through yet another painful time in your life. Know that many people are behind you in hopes that you make it back to the life that you knew and loved.
I lost my daughter in 2007 to Epilepsy. She was 22 years old. You can’t understand why these things happen, but you must move on in life. I miss her everyday. She had a son, Alex, 3 months before she died. His father now has him and my wife and I, and our other 3 children, have seen him only 4 times for about 10 minutes each time. I feel anger that I can do nothing about.
For you, I pray for peace for you. It will not come soon, nor easily.
Ken, I’ve come to learn the hard way that sometimes things just don’t make any sense. Bad stuff happens and you can break you head trying to figure out why. But the bottom line is that some people you just have to put behind you. There’s a scripture in the bible that speaks off “shaking the dust off your feet”. I think you may have to do that with some of these people in your life who just want to put their shame or guilt on you. Losing a love one is hard enough but losing a child, that’s just unbearable. I lost my husband almost two years ago and I remember feeling like I had lost part of myself because he and I were truly soul mates, we were like one. But losing a child, truly is losing a part of you. It seems that people’s mind, including your children, were corrupted by someone or some people but as long as you have peace with yourself, then that’s all that counts.
I will say this, if you don’t have a relationship with the Lord, now’s the time. It’s only my relationship with Jesus that pulled me through my difficult times and somehow gave me strength. I’ll be praying for you.
Dear Ken,
I am filled with sorrow at the news of the loss of your son. I can only imagine the pain this has caused you. I don’t know you, and I can’t presume to know, and can only hope that in some small way this may help as you bounce back to the peace and joy that will be yours again: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H8ZuKF3dxCY
May all the memories of the good times with your son warm your heart always.
I can’t honestly say I’ve ever heard of you in the golf world which I don’t follow at all. When I saw a headline stating “Another Trajedy strikes…golf pro” I clicked on the link to read your story thinking it was another Tiger Woods story. Life can be so unrelenting, but please know there are people who care about you and are hurting with you. I thank God that He continues to give you strength each day to perservere. I will be praying for healing and ask you not to stay in that place of anger too long,you have been and will be a testimony of strength to others. Be encouraged and keep holding on.
I so related when I read your story on yahoo. Last year, I lost my father, my best friend, and her two children—all within a few months. If I can offer any advice, it would be try to stay as positive as you can, and honor your son. It sounds like there is a lot of pain in the backstory of your relationship with your family. Try not to dwell on the things you can’t change or what you or other family members should have done. If you do, you’ll drive yourself crazy, and you might say things you will regret. Remember that you’re really not yourself right now. Take some time to grieve, then deal with your family.
I’m very sorry for your loss.
Ken,
In the last year I have lost my employment of twenty-five years due to health. My home, my truck, my hope, gone.
In the preceding year, I lost my father, my beautiful mother-in-law, her husband, and my nineteen year old daughter to a tragic car crash.
I’ve recently contemplated suicide. I called support and an ambulance took me to emergency services.
My faith, although, not totally renewed, is all I have. It’s all it can be. Nothing less.
My small family is currently struggling for it’s own survival. If not for a small hope, I may have given up. We have a responsibility for those that follow our similar struggles, to move on and teach others that follow our own tragic past.
In God’s Name,
Ty
Ken My heart goes out to you and your family. I watched you play over the years. Haven’t watched a golf match in a number of years tho. I’m back out on the road driving a truck again. It is my Therapy from the last two yrs of my life…I too lost my son, my oldest son on Oct 25 2008. Merle was 18 when he past.
Jim
I pray and have faith that God will give you the peace and strength that surpasses all understanding. 1 Cor. 13:4-7 God teachs us about love, may God’s love fill your heart and your love for your son will always be part of who you are, will give you the strength to go on. Your son is physically gone but is alive in your heart. I never heard of you before but I was touch by the news. God Bless you always with his Tender Love.
Ken,
Words cannot express the sorrow Shellie and I feel regarding the passing of your son Hunter. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.
CA
Ken,
From everything you’ve said about the fight you put up for your son, I can totally relate, but on a totally different topic level and certainly not on the subject of death. There are times in life when certain things happen and YOU KNOW you are the correct one, even when everyone and their brother is telling you you’re the one at fault. Just take pride in the fact that YOU know in your heart that you fought for your son. When your days come to an end and you’re looking the big guy in the eyes, that is all that matters, and that’s all that matters now too. You have nothing to feel bad about, nothing to feel ashamed about, nothing to regret. You did what you could do, and it just didn’t work. People make their own choices; that is the beauty and the beast of free will. But for some reason, this world is full of people who want to bring everyone else down with them. If you ever find out why, let me know.
Dear Ken:
I don’t know you, I don’t know golf but I feel terrible about the tragedies you have suffered, Hunter being the worst. I am so very sorry! From the bottom of my heart I am sorry.
I wish you the best and sincerely hope that it all gets better from here.
i sadly watched my older sister try and poison her son’s relationship with his birth father. eventually, when he was 14, i helped him leave kauai and be with his father. he is now a decoerated police officer in california, he calls me mommy and i love him as if he were mine. i too lost a daughter once……..but your story is sad. no matter what your ex said or did she could not erase the memories and experiences he had with you as tesetified above. remember and embrace those moments. obviously your ex does not love herself or is a happy person and tries to make everyone around her as miserable as herself. your son is phsically gone but will always be with you. god bless
Dear Ken:
I don’t know you, I don’t know golf but I feel terrible about the tragedies you have suffered, Hunter being the worst. I am so very sorry! From the bottom of my heart I am sorry.
I wish you the best and sincerely hope that it all gets better from here.