KG’s Blog Post #33 – 1/27/10 12:59pm
Hello My Friends,
I’m disgusted with myself for what i am about to do and say. I can’t hold back my pain and emotions in reference to Hunter’s family. I believe I am dishonoring the death of my son, but the human in me is failing at doing the honorable thing. This will be my last blog on the awful situation.
I will not even comment on the letter submitted by my once daughter Brooke. It is all public knowledge in the courthouse on all my fights regarding visitation of my son.
The mother of these 3 children have two different fathers and they both have been so called awful dads. We both lost out on our children. The thought once can be true, but two really show the story is just obvious.
I know that when God brings me home I will be able to look him in the face and know I did not dishonor him in regards to Hunter.
On another point, I would like to tell you about Mr. Munch. Since I found out about Hunter’s death, he has stuck to me like clue. It’s amazing even at 5 1/2 months he can sense that his daddy is not feeling right.
I thank you all for your kind words and i wish you all the best.
Please forgive me for my anger and emotions.
Ken
I want to tell everyone about the Kenny I know and love, so that there’s some balance to the nasty things I’ve been hearing lately. I think it’s horrible how Hunter’s mother and her little gang of people are treating Ken right now. I think it says a lot about a person that even when such a tragedy strikes, she is still using it as a way to feel powerful. It’s sad that she is obviously so consumed with hate that even her own son’s death is a tool for her to use to hurt Ken.
Anyway, it was my mother in that RV. They were coming home, to Greensboro, the day of the accident. I had spent the day cleaning up the house. Kenny texted me from Shreveport to let me know where they were. And then instead of them pulling in the driveway, two of my aunts and an uncle came over that night instead, having managed to find out and call off the police who were coming to notify me.
I’ve known Ken since I was a kid — my grandfather was friends with him and we used to watch him play the GGO. He used to toss us golf balls off the field. When I was a teenager he and my mother started dating, and in the 9 years after I got to know him really well. He always treated my mother like gold, despite the later financial troubles and various health problems that plagued both of them. I got to know him best after I moved in with them in 05 in Florida. I was doing a lot of drugs and had been kicked out of other places, and he let me move in. He treated me like gold, too, despite all the pain and suffering I put him and mom through while I was going through that rough patch. We did a bunch of stuff together, movies, etc… We would cook together, Ken on the grill, mom in the kitchen, me wandering back and forth. I had a puppy at the time that Kenny basically trained for me. His mother was living there too, and he treated her wonderfully.
When I moved in with them again in 06 in Greensboro, he treated me the same way. I remember how he and his ex-wife would *still* fight even after Hunter was 18. She tried to get more money from Ken then he had, tried to start fights between him and Hunter, and said vicious lies about Ken. I was also there for the constant phone calls FROM Hunter. He called and they would talk. The only time it got ugly was when Hunter asked for money and Ken couldn’t give it to him. (And you know if Ken only had a dollar to eat with and someone he loved needed that dollar, he’d give it up.) Then the Hunter that ellyn raised would come out and he would rage at Kenny. And Ken would be in tears because he couldn’t help him and wanted this kid to have everything. Ken gave this kid everything he possibly could — and those of us that know him know that he would give you the shirt off his back. He was trying so hard to rebuild a relationship with Hunter — he took him as a caddy to a couple of golf tournaments. Hell, Hunter even lived with my mom and Ken in the RV for awhile last year. I wasn’t there for Hunter’s early childhood, but I’ve been around for his adolesence and I know Ken, and he’s one of the most generous, caring people you could ever meet.
I don’t know what to say about the slanderous bullshit that’s been going on. I wish everyone would on that side of Hunter’s family would grow a heart and realize that everyone is hurting right now and what’s going on is so . . . evil. At least Hunter is with my mom and Billy and the truth is known to him. I have a father I love, but I’m also lucky to have a de facto stepdad that I couldn’t love more. I don’t know what God has planned, but after such an overwhelmingly tragic year, something extraordinarily good is coming his way. He is a wonderful person and deserves so much.
Kenny — I love you, I miss you, I will see you soon. Please try and ignore those hateful people and know that in the end, it’s obvious that they aren’t good people and that hate will just continue to consume them until they have driven everyone away. I’m just sorry they aren’t human enough to have any respect for other people’s feelings, even in death.
God bless you Ken, no one would blame you for your anger and disgust. I feel for you and I want you to know that when you go home to be with the Lord, your son will be there waiting for you. I want you to know that through all of your adversity, that you have been an inspiration to me and have made me appreciate life as well as the “little things” with a new found sense of gratitude, zest, and urgency. I am touched by you and I am a better person because of you. Please know that you have been a blessing to others and maybe that is why some things are the way they are, so as to embolden and inspire those of us who without examples like you would be lost! If I never meet you in this life, I look forward to meeting you in the next life, which is eternal!
Mr Green,
Today I Spoke of You Aloud
Today I spoke of you aloud
TO ONE who knows your name
I asked that he would comfort you
and prayed you’d ask the same.
I told the Lord of trials you ‘ve faced
and those your going through,
To let Him know your struggling friend,
but He already knew.
I asked that God would line your path
with signs that you could read
How hard it is to walk alone—-
I prayed you’d let Him lead.
And as you face this cloudy day
I pray you’ll understand;
Your not alone–He’s there with you….
Let Jesus hold your hand….
I hope you find comformt in that short prayer…. I said it for you today.. God Bless.
Today is the first day I heard about your story, your accident, and the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you during this really difficult time. There are good people out there, and I see on this page many are praying for you during this heartache you’re dealing with. Take care of yourself…and May you be blessed with brighter days!!
~Alma.
Sorry for your loss but god will heal all the hurt.
I just read about you & your accident, and the loss of your son. It’s tragic and sad, and I hope you can overcome all the heartache. I hope the best for you, and that someway you can be happy once again. There are good people out there, and I see many are praying for you! Best wishes from me, someone who didn’t know your story until today. Take care of yourself and know that I wish the best for you under all circumstances. Hope. Pray. Love. And may the force be with you. Smile. Feel what you must…and May you be blessed with brighter days ahead.
Ken,
The January 2010 National Geographic issue has a great article about cutting edge bionics.
I hope the memories of the good times you shared with your son will bring you comfort as you grieve your loss.
Rachelle
Ken: I don’t know you but my heart goes out to you. You have been dealing with some incredible losses and must feel like you are under the most extreme pressures a human can have. The weight of all of this can bring any man down to his knees. I hope that you can just lean into the comfort of the Lord’s arms and let Him lift you up and guide you thru your life. He is the only one who can really help you get thru this. I pray for relief for you in your time of sorrow.
God Bless
Pat
I am a stranger but my brother was a student at SMU some years ago and he has passed, so I understand some of your pain. Your post struck a chord with me and I just wanted to say that I will include you and your family in my prayers this evening. Please do not try to cope without help my family did that and we are now disfunctional and still in denial.
If you know that the bottom line is written in God’s book — and you know that only Christ can pay the debt in full, then he’ll also provide the way to get you through this part. I don’t know you or Hunter but I’m moved by your journey and have taken it to heart.
Ken,
Need someone to just listen? I am a here. Sunny
Thosae of us who have lost children understand. There are those who can’t and never will….and they should be thankful for that…
When you come to the end of all the light you know and are about to step out into the darkness…faith is knowing that one of two things will happen. You will step on solid ground, or you will be taught to fly……May you soar on the wings of angels through this dark time.
I have lost most of my family and my beloved dog of 13 years in a very short amount of time. I am so sorry for you loss… For me, somethings got better with time, somethings stayed numb and somethings I just learned to live with. Stay strong in mind, soft in heart and learn as you go, that’s the only way to survive. And trust me, if you reverse the first two you may still exist but you will not have survived… Wishing you a very peaceful and prosperous future.
L
I hope these words can soften the pain a little, but I doubt it. I do not know you or your family at all, but saw this on the Yahoo news today, and it broke my heart. I have just lost my father to brain cancer, but I can’t imagine losing either one of my children. You will see him in heaven. God bless you, Leanne
Ken-God is still with you no matter what. He knows what you are going thur and he is right there with you throught the pain and doubt and with each shot. Lean on him Ken and he will keep caring you through. Its got to be hard to believe with all that you have been through but you will prevail. Don’t quit!
I do not know you nor do I follow golf. But I would like to tell you that I cannot imagine the pain the you must be going thru right now. I have one son and cannot fathom the emotions that would uproot in me if such a tragedy struck him. I can tell you, however, that this too shall pass. Keep your head up and look to the hills from whence cometh your help; your help comes from the Lord. Continue to stand for what you know is right and pray that Hunter too knew the Dad that you are. In the end, as you said, it doesn’t matter what their Mom’s thought, but what God knows. Take care and my prayers are with you and your family.
Ken I am praying for you and your family. My heart is broken for you, and words fail to express the depth of that pain. I will be praying for you and hope your heart heals, and that God will reveal the mysteries of the meaning of all this your going through. Take care buddy!
I am so incredibly sorry for the the loss of your son. There are really no words. Please know that there is a band of people who care for you and who are praying for you and will continue to pray for you. Consolation is a journey that we experience together. Please take heart in the fact that many care and join you on this journey.
Condolences to your significant loss.
Dear Ken,
I came across your story today on the internet and felt so strong a need to send my deepest condolences to you, both as a parent and as a pet owner, and mostly as another human who believes in being there for others in their time of need. I struggle to think of what I would do if 1 of my 3 children would pass away, so I cannot even imagine who terrible a loss this must be for you. I do, however, sympathize with the passing of a beloved pet, mine a cat named Sissy who died of cancer. We since have 3 more cats who have blessed our house with love and companionship. I can only hope in this time of mourning for your son that you can somehow hold on to the fact that so many others are praying for you and wishing you well. My deepest sympathies are with you at this time in your life. My family and I will continue to pray for you. Wishing there was more that I could do to help ease your pain. Please take care Ken….Susan
Who knows why things happen the way they do? Some get much more than there fair share and all at once to boot. I’m sure people with a heart can forgive your anger right now. I will add you to my prayers, whether God answers them or there is just a feeling sent through the cosmos, I pray that you find some place of comfort and love. No one “deserves” this sort of thing and I am sorry as hell that you have had to go through this (and are still). I don’t follow golf just read your story and as someone who works in a hospital know that the scale isn’t even, some get more than their fair share. Know that others feel for you. Blessings, Amy
I can’t imagine you wouldn’t feel anger at a time like this. Sometimes life can come crashing in on you. Please keep trusting in God, remember, He is not the cause of your pain but the answer. We had three infants with brain cancer and God and Jesus were our only hope. They were all we had left to hand onto. We were devastated financially, emotionally, in every way but God said He would never leave you nor forsake you. Trust in Him. I am so sorry about all your losses.
For God so loved the world that He gave his only Son. John 3:16. God knows how you feel.
Dear Ken,
You have my deepest condolences in this trying time of such tragedy. I know how all of this horrible family stuff goes, and if there isn’t some kind of forgiveness, it never seems to have a good outcome. Please know that you are in my prayers. Know too, that if God brings you to it, He WILL bring you through it. He never gives us burdens that we cannot handle. Trust me on this. I have had my share of tragedy and loss. I cannot even tell you how I managed to get through it, but I did, and you will to.
God bless you.
I can only hope that you stay strong with these very hard times ahead of you. This is a bad [art that I hope you can work through. I will pray for you. Sharon
Dear Ken,
This may be an odd sounding question to you, but if you could, would you do anything to see your son again? Do you trust that He who made us to live, can bring back those from death? A couple scriptures from the bible give us the hope that we will be able to see our loved ones again. Indeed it is God’s purpose at John 5:29. If you have a bible, you may want to locate these scriptures for comfort and for thought. Here in John 11:1-44, Is an account that would touch your heart and comfort you. Stay strong and focused!
Keep moving forward everyday!!!!
Dear Ken,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Do whatever you can to remain positive. I know first hand that it is very hard to do, but I believe in you & I know that you can do it. If you ever need a friend or someone who can help you get positive PLEASE feel free to call me. 816 442 8298. Best wishes for happiness, love &peace in your heart & mind. Sincerely, Kim Adele Hastert
Sorry for your loss. May God bless you.
KEN,
As a dad, brother, husband and dog owner I can say I would be absolutely devastated if I lost any of them. But to lose all of them the way you have is incomprehensible. Your fortitude and resilience is awe inspiring. I will be praying for you and of course Mr. Munch. My daughter who is 5 years old, just learned of your misfortune as i was writing this and says she will pray for you tonight as well!!!
Be well brother and stay strong! again, we will be praying for your spiritual recovery.
Respectfully,
DRÉ
(concerned golfer and family man)
Ken, I have come into a bad habit and that’s allowing others to invite me to “drama” and I’ve accepted the invitation. I am about to go into heart surgery, the idea I’ve wasted my life on those such insignificant things really makes me regret wasting my time thinking there would be a good result. I am so sorry for your loss, and the clever thing to do now, is take care of yourself, and the family you love, and children who need you.
In this world we get one chance to learn what we’re suppose to, all the other “fluff” is insignificant at the end of the day when it comes to the bigger picture which is Heart, spirit/soul, and learn from others, and teaching others. Life is prescious and I think you are fully aware of it. Please don’t accepts ‘anyone’s invitation to unhealthy and silly drama learn what Hunter taught you with his life, honor your relationship with him. Be who God intended you to be, we were all here to learn how to be human beings. I don’t care if you Golf or Ski. I just care if you are content with yourself, and can look in the mirror and say “yes”. The rest of the b.s. in life people invite you to, you can always respectfully decline.
God Bless you and I am so sorry for your loss……
Eleven Rules for Being Human
What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
1) You will learn lessons.
2) You are enrolled in a full time informal school called life. Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think those irrelevant and stupid.
3) There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial and error: experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately “works”.
4) The lesson is repeated until learned. A less will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can then go on to the next lesson.
5) Learning lessons does not end. There is no part of life that does not contain its lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
6) There is no better “here”. When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here”.
7) Others are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
9) Your answers lie inside you. The answers to life’s questions lie inside you. All you need to do is look, listen and trust.
10) You will forget all this.
11) You can remember it whenever you want.
Through the darkest time there is always a light, let him inspire you to rise up and accomplish all that you can. He is never gone but always beside you watching over you…..
I have lost most of my family but eventhough I have felt as down as one can get..there is one thing that I never lost..through all the pain tears anger and questions….and that was HOPE!
Hoping to be better, to live my life to the fullest, and do all that I can to make that person proud of me!
Hunter loves you-GO ON FOR HIM!!!
let me know you got this! Tngmlg@aol.com
GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Ken,
Like many others here, I dont follow golf, although I do play occasional mini golf. (dont laugh too hard). But I feel everything that you are going through at this time of pain and sorrow. Stay strong and keep your chin up. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
not a golf fan, not a fan of yours really and just heard about you 15 minutes ago, but godspeed my friend through this hellacious time. stay strong, you’ll see your so on the other side and be able to make peace. don’t let it trouble you that you won’t be able to see his body again because his soul is still here
Ken, no words can take away the feeling that you are going through, I know because I have been there as well. I have been through the bad divorce, I lost my first child, and now one of my daughters has brain cancer. It is tough, some days worse than others. I have four other daughters, I admire and love them all, with all my heart. I have always beleived in God but never understood life and why thing happen the way they do. I have gotten alot closer to God and realized that it is his plan not mine. I am a beliver in Jesus Christ and I know that it is in his strenghth that I fall on through his word and doing my part to get closer to him for me and my children. Ken I dont know you but would love to get to know you more and talk to you more about our stories. I really feel the Lord has lead me to you. Brother I know its hard and I do love you through Christ OUR lord. email me if you feel the need to talk to someone.
God Bless you,
BT
Be well my friend . We mourn and prayer with you !
I was staring at my computer trying to figure out what to do about the crisis I am facing today and read your piece on yahoo and then for some reason went to your blog…it takes so long for people to know than the emotions they make decisions with sometime are wrong and I think sometime women don’t ever see – I think of one of my daughters – I am so sorry for yor loss. Please write if you like. Lynne
Just saw your story on Yahoo. And your last post. So sad that parents have to put their children in the middle and use them as pawns. In the end, know that it does not matter what your ex did and thinks. God knows what is inside your heart and the love you hold you for your son.
My ex withheld visitation and made visitation extremely difficult to the point that I did not see my kids for 6 years. My oldest son was in 8th grade when I finally was able to see him again. And while he was still in her control not much changed with visitation. Karma is a b**ch Ken. My son now lives with me, his choice after serving in the US Army and now realizes what the games his mom played. Your son may not have lived long enough to see that but God knows what you have gone through. Stay strong for your son’s sake, even though he is not hear. Wear his name proudly, think of him in your comeback. This comeback of yours is for him. Honor him and use the media coverage to tell the world how much you loved him. God has given you abilities that others do not have. Don’t squander them by falling prey to your vicious ex.
Go out there right now and start hitting a few balls. Remember, it is for you and your son.
Dear Ken – I have followed your career for many years, being a CT native and having played one of your favorite haunts (Richter Park) many times. I have always rooted for you because you were not the “quintesential” PGA Tour mouthpiece, told it like it was (atleast in your eyes, which is all that matters) and was never afraid to speak your mind and thumb your nose at all the folks that NEEDED just that (ESPECIALLY the Augusta yellow bucket lid members). I know that Ken Green is not going to give up, even in times that would crush the spirits of most of us. God Bless You, Ken Green. Our prayers and thoughts are with you..
Ken,
No one can take your pain away, and only you can begin to somehow live with that. As a Father whose Son attempted suicide you take life’s worst and try your best to eventually overcome the hurt, the confusion and pain. As a man and a Dad you can and will one day feel some relief…when, is the question without an answer right now.
But know this please, there are many out in the world who will pray for you, hope things are better soon, and try to be a shoulder to lean on.
Count me as one of those.
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. Your anger,hurt,and pain is understandable. You and your family are in my prays. May God comfort you daily to ease your emotions.
Dear Mr. Green,
From one parent to another, I had to let you know that I am praying for you and your family at this most lonely and difficult time. This is when you must rely on Jesus to carry you through. Please accept my sincere condolences.
In Jesus Name,
Melissa Ysaguirre
ken,
i dont know you and i dont watch golf, but when i just saw the story about your son and then about the accident i was overwhelmed. i felt a need to let you know that God is ALWAYS with you. when i hit “go to your blog” i was thrilled to see that you already know this. i will be praying that God gives you peace.
God Bless you,
sandra
Ken,
I do not know you, but I am speaking from the bottom of my heart…. Your ex-wife and every adult, male and female should be ashamed of themselves when they inflict their anger upon their children when it comes to separations. I have my son at 19 and with full knowledge that you can not keep a man based on the fact that you had his child, understood that his dad was not ready for that at the time, BUT…. I completely encouraged and pushed for his dad to involve himself in my son’s life, which unfortunately turned out to be a waste of my time as he had no interest in being a dad. I then married and had my daughter but divorced some 14 years later and again, tried to totally encourage my ex’s and my daughters relationship full well knowing that he was a selfish and mean person, but because I truly believe EVERY child should have the benefit of being close to both of their parents. Again, it turned out to be a waste of my time. The sad truth is this is detrimental to our children that they have a loving and special relationship with their natural parents. I apologize to you for your ex’s actions!!! I pray that you overcome the obstacles you are facing and wish you the best!
Ken, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your son, not to mention the other burdens. Know that many are praying for you and count me among them. God Bless You.
God Bless you Ken! You’ve been in my prayer and I will continue to pray for you. Stay strong…Stay positive! I know things are tough right now, but remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. So many people are praying and pulling for you.
peace,
Kal
Ken, I have two sons, 21 and 23. The 23 year old played college golf for ASU and turned pro in 2009. The 21 year old is also at ASU majoring in communication. They are both great young men and are the sole purpose for my existence. I cannot feel what you are feeling right now and I hope I never do. There is nothing I can say or do that will help you. For this I am sorry. Remember the good times your son contributed to your life and hopefully you may, just may be able to smile again.
Comeback in 2010!
Mark
Ken,
I am so sorry – I lost my 24 year old son Brian 2 years ago to a accidental overdose. It has been a long journey – his father and I had a very ugly divorce. My heart goes out to you.
Love in Christ,
Karen
Ken,
It is not certain to which any of these words posted on my behalf or anyone else here may be of any benefit to you. But in the lease it is overwhelming to to say that my heart goes out to you and the ones you are suffering with in this tragic situation. No words can express what you are feeling and to say that time heals all wounds is just not true. The only way to deminish such feelings and thoughts is to replace them with happier moments and memories.
The total weight of all your problems from the divorce to the lost of your son is enough to break down the strongest person. But as you go on with your life you will have oppurtunity to find some way to overcome all these events. It is all part of the human spirit to do so. To go on and become what you want to become. To go on and do what you have to do……to overcome tragedy and turn the life you have into something memoriable.
I cannot promise that any of these words may help, but know that people are out there and these people care about you.
You have my deepest sympathies
Ken,
I am so very sorry to hear about Hunter’s passing. I’ll never forget playing baseball with you both in Mamaw and Papaw’s backyard after the GGO all those years ago. You do not deserve what his mother and sister are doing. I know you loved your son more than you could ever express, and he loved you too. Please hang in there, we are all pulling for you. You have some really great supporters up there in Heaven too!
God Bless You,
Erin